What are you committing to this year? Many people believe in making New Year’s Resolutions but that is not the same as making a decision about what you will do starting today until you reach the goal. A decision is not just a powerful statement, it is the recurring practice of something until the goal is reached. It requires consistent practice, practice, practice, no matter the “failures” incurred. Sitting in review of last year may be a prompt for many of us to look toward what we prefer to see in our lives instead of what we saw in 2016, but WHAT will you do differently to create those changes? In my 25 plus years as a self-help scholar and the last 5 years as a certified integrative life coach, nothing has continued to be more glaringly powerful than changing our thinking. Our brain is the most powerful tool in our possession and we just haphazardly throw it around this way and that. What if we actually spent a year, cleaning it out, tuning it up, sharpening it to it’s most brilliant form? What could we affect in our lives this way, not just ourselves but everyone around us? We have all heard that we have the same combination of thoughts hour by hour, day after day, year after year, and then we see it reflected in our lives. Being ready to get off the merry-go-round of useless and harmful thoughts takes effort, it’s going against what is easy and familiar but it IS the way to a life that you actually want. You are creating a life anyway with all those incessant, low-value thoughts, if you don’t believe me then what have you got to lose by trying this experiment for one year? Hiring a coach may seem like a waste of time–which by the way I have yet to understand given that well over 95% of the worlds most successful people hire them–but I assure you that the only wasted time is the one you spend thinking you can do this on your own. It’s not that you are not brilliant and have all the answers, you absolutely do, what you don’t have are the questions needed to access your brilliance and the tools to show you what you are ACTUALLY made of, which is far more than you can see right now. The mistakes you make, even the ones about “trying harder”, will continue to offer you the same results, but being willing to relate to yourself in a whole new way will change the trajectory of your life and will actually have you moving forward rather than in a deja vu mindless loop.
After working with so many clients over the years, not all of which have been for health coaching, I have come to discover that what people really want is to be happy. To put it another way, people want relief from their lives. They are tired of the overwhelm, the lack of time, the stress, the lack of sleep, the scattered brain, the spinning wheels that get them nowhere.
It’s no surprise then, and really quite a delight for me, that what I MOSTLY do is life coaching. As an aside, I have been a Certified Life Coach for 4 years and I am currently in training to become a Master Level Coach (MCC) through the International Coaching Federation (basically the closest we come to a governing board–you can check it out here). My Functional Medicine Coach training was very heavy on life coaching as well (just more applicable to all things health). Which is no coincidence, of course, because people don’t need more pills or to be more “compliant”, they need someone to help them figure out what they want for themselves and how to get it. So yay! for these integrated models of health care that embrace the fact that the patient knows best when it comes to their life and what they are willing to commit to.
Life coaching, also known as personal coaching, is about making the patient/client responsible for their agenda. In other words, you have to define what ACTUALLY matters to you, not what you “should or must” do, but what you actually “want and can” do. This could be about a relationship you haven’t repaired, this could be about your aversion to keeping your promises to yourself, this could be about your job sucking the life out of you. So really any area that is clouding your freedom to live a life you can be relieved and happy about. Because can you see how “that” is honestly impacting your health? It may be in a habit that you use which leads to poor health but helps you “cope” with “that” thing. So figure out what is getting in your way and commit to changing it, even if you don’t know how. A coach can be the greatest investment you’ll ever make toward fulfilling on what matters most to you. Yes, I am a Registered Nurse, yes, I am Certified Diabetes Educator, but being a Life Coach is what makes me the most successful at getting people the results they actually want.
Listen, there is no shame in not wanting to change. It is HARD. It is WAY more fun to imagine or plan how you will go about change. Humans are not designed for change. So what if you could let go of this idea that there is something wrong with you? What if you embraced that changing is not necessary? Sure, some people have mastered it, but that doesn’t mean it is the only means to get what we want from life. What if, however, instead of focusing on changing, and this idea that you need “fixing” was simply thrown out and you started allowing more joy in your life by adding things rather than taking things away? Who could you be in a few months, a year, 5 years? What can you add this week to your health, relationship, career? sleep an extra half hour, kiss for 5 minutes, set up an e-mail filter system, deep breathe at least once a day? Yeah, it’s that simple. Making it too complicated is another way we keep ourselves stuck. Make it easy, as easy as you can stand it, then start seeing the results.
There are aspects to life that keep us trapped that we must rise above in order to move forward, see new results, enter into a happier, simpler life. Not rising above whatever is holding us back will affect our health, our habits, our relationships, our careers, even our free time, all of it.
Life coaching has been around for years and we know that most successful people hire coaches to continue to succeed. But it isn’t just meant for the rich and famous, in fact everyone could benefit from coaching. Why?
Well it’s not because coaches are supreme, all-knowing beings— if you find a coach that makes these claims then steer clear–that is not coaching! No! Because YOU are the expert in your life. The people that seek coaching are those that KNOW in their bones that they are selling themselves short in life in one area (or in many) and they also KNOW what they would rather have, BUT they struggle at listening to their inner expert– either they purposefully defy themselves, self-sabotage, or can’t get inspired to take action, and THAT is where coaching can help you soar to levels of fulfillment you thought were not possible. Coaches are experts at making your inner expert come through for you.
Coaching provides a path to new, desired, and permanent results even with the longest held or most complicated problem/issue.
“Yeah” you might be saying “I know what I need to do, I just need to ‘try harder’ and I should be doing this thing or that thing…” But that thinking keeps you in the problem and possibly digs you deeper. Coaching works in the realm of “you don’t know what you don’t know”– In other words looking at the problem/issue from the same vantage point will never look different, but you do not know that there are vantage points you have no access to, yet.
So allow yourself to rise above it–whatever “it” is and be free from the same old way of thinking and the same old results you no longer want. That is what Rise Above It Coach is all about.